Türkiye Bütüncül Psikoterapi Dergisi
Yazarlar: Funda TUZGÖL
Konular:Psikoloji
Anahtar Kelimeler:Selfobject,Woman,Man,Subjectivity,Mother,Man for Woman
Özet: In terms of the psychological development of the human infant and the construction of an integrated self, the accompaniment of mothers in developmental periods is important. The quality of the relationship that each human child establishes with his mother and the mother’s empathy during the development of her baby are very important for both the development and subjectivity of her baby. The support that the mother will give to her baby as unique and to bring her innate potentials to life is a very important psychological fuel that s/he will use throughout her life. An environment that the mother presents for her child and this relationship established between them offer a function that Kohut calls “Selfobject”. Both mental, psychological and social well-being of the mother are necessary to present this function and to provide it in a healthy way. The thing that will provide this well-being is the father, the man, who should support the mother who will provide that selfobject function especially in the first three years, as well as the self-capacities found in the mother’s own psyche. Both the coexistence of a mother and the child, the completion of the developmental processes of the child in the first three years of life, and the subsequent separation of the baby from the mother, the father is of great importance both in the social sense and in the context of family processes. In the developmental processes mentioned, the most important issue in the existence of the human infant is the realization of how to exist as a physically and psychologically healthy person, rather than positioning it as a woman or a man. Likewise, it is seen that the distribution of the duties of the mother and father is often unfair in the construction of the psychological development of the child, and it is seen that most of these duties are attributed to women. The most valuable person in realizing this responsibility in the healthiest way is the man at home who will support the mother. A happy, peaceful, socially, psychological and physically healthy woman will reveal the most correct psychological approach to her baby in a developmental sense with the contributions of the man who fulfills his duty in this support in a healthy way. While this healthy environment will contribute to the raising of individuals who are beneficial to the society and mentally healthy, it will also contribute to the formation of a more harmonious social discourse in terms of the position of men and women. Knowing the impact of social discourse and cultural codes on the mental development processes of men and women and considering their possible contribution to the formation of a healthier family environment, it can be stated that the he for she will contribute to the formation of healthier and happier individuals. In this context, we can state that the importance of the harmony of mother, father and child and support for women should be emphasized scientifically in this congress and similar studies where subjectivity in human psychologicality is studied and that this is a social responsibility.